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By Maria McHale on her 55th birthday
Hello 55.
This last decade has been some ride!
I’ve done SO MANY things and I’m excited for what’s next but boy did I learn things I did not want to learn, made decisions that were terrifying emotionally and financially disastrous at times, allowed the wrong people into my life AND...
I would actually do it all again BUT with the knowledge I have now (I’m no fool! 🤣😇).
Here’s some nuggets for you!
You don’t need everyone to understand you. There’s such freedom in no longer explaining yourself to people who are committed to misunderstanding you. You know who you are and the people who matter know who you are.
Reinvention doesn’t have an age limit. You’re allowed to change your mind or change direction or start something new or walk away from something you’ve outgrown - whenever you decide.
Being needed isn’t the same as being loved. Being useful, carrying people, solving their problems and making their lives easier can feel a lot like love but they’re not the same thing. You don’t have to earn your place in anyone’s life.
Stop auditioning. For friendships. Relationships. Work. Opportunities. Rooms you think you need to belong in. The right people don’t require a performance from you.
Peace has become more valuable than being right. Not every misunderstanding needs correcting, sometimes you know the truth and you get on with your life.
Disappointment tells you something. When people disappoint you, believe the information. You don’t have to hate them but you should adjust their access to you.
Your life gets better when you stop abandoning yourself. Every time you say yes when you mean no or accept something you know isn’t right, you abandon yourself a little. I’m getting much better at staying on my own side.
There are worse things than losing people. Losing yourself trying to keep them is one.
You don’t need permission. Not to write, not to speak, not to start a business, not to change direction, not to charge properly for your work, not to take up space. At some point you have to stop waiting to be picked and pick yourself!
Your body deserves a different relationship as you get older. Always go to nourishing first over punishing yourself.
You’re allowed to want more. You know what? Gratitude and ambition aren’t opposites, you can love your life and still want a bigger one! More experiences, money, love, adventure, freedom. Wanting more doesn’t mean what you have isn’t enough.
Joy is SUPER important. We spend decades organising life around responsibility, work, family, bills, other people. You should make a lot of your day very enjoyable!
Some chapters don’t need closure. You don’t always get the apology or even the explanation! Sometimes closure is deciding you’re finished wondering WTF happened!
I like myself so much now! Maybe this is the biggest gift in getting older. I know the mistakes I’ve made and where I’ve fucked up spectacularly 🤦🏼‍♀️And I’m still proud of the woman I’ve become.
I’m the writer of my life.
I’m not running out of time, I’m getting really strict about who deserves it!
Integrity is being able to live with your own decisions. If you know your principles and make decisions according to them, you don’t have to spend your life defending yourself to yourself.
So here's to more of all that - blessed to have a village of friends who have made this decade fabulous and also bearable too!

Autumn has come to Ireland

I wonder what the intention is behind sending this to everybody in the country…

Okay - here’s today’s video about grief.

https://youtu.be/Bk-Lv-fwThY?si=nKd_XaNNqd9-HLS8